urban writes

The travels

In order not to have too many blogs, I mean - I have three already, and also in order to promote this one, I’ll use it for my travel diaries. Enjoy…

Do you know the special travelmode one can get in to? This feeling of reality loosening a bit up, getting broader somehow. Things that would be strange in your own country, or things you wouldn’t even notice because it would be too far away from your normal perception, suddenly get’s it’s place in your world, and you wonder how a reality suddenly can change that drastic, only because you crossed some stupid borders.

I get this feeling every time I travel, and strong it came to me when I first arrived in Berlin this July. Having bin incredibly busy this spring, I had prosponed all decisions concerning travels, but the vacuum of the after-event made me look for my spontanious I, and I found it, as usual over a beer, together with a friend, and we decided to hitchhike to Berlin, and from there I would try to make my way to the Black Sea, follow the coast through Ukraine, Moldova, Romania, Bulgaria and end in Istanbul where I could take a flight home.

So this is my plans, and until now they are happy followed. Berlin was a dream as always, what did we do? I have no idea… sleeping in Gorlitzer park, smoking on the balcony, there was also some Harry Potter in there, eating a lot of great food, dancing to Kate Bush during the cooking, wandering around in the rain under the umbrella, gay bars, sitting by the river at 8 in the morning, after a long night out, exploring exploring exploring. Together with friends that are all the time making me consider my incredible luck, - that I should meet such wonderful people!

And all the time my reality widened, and I don’t want to come back in to my normal little box of understanding. I want to keep this tresure of beeing able to accept more. We should all, I think, continously, meet a lot of things different to ourselves, and try to consume this. Take it in and let it work!

Now Ukraine, and I want to tell you all about it, but first i must post some pictures, then I must go to buy a trainticket.

To read more about the time of me studying in Berlin, go to http://hvadermitberlin.blogspot.com/

Meeting an old acquaintance

At the university, in the canteen. Asking how everything is going, him asking back - you know the drill.

Me saying “congratulations, you are married!”, him saying “yes, and I’m expecting a baby soon”, me saying “congratulations” all over again, happy - smiling. Now to the more serious part; him saying “and you, still single?”, me saying “yes, as always”.

The great thing is that I’m happy with this. I believe in “the happy single” as I am one myself, I don’t see myself in the traditional family patterns, I don’t want children. I have only just recently (a year or so) started believing in it as a happy thing, and that was when I stopped believing in my surroundings (telling me the opposite all the time).

For me it is as happy that I’m still single, with no children, as my acquaintance’s married status is for him. It opens up a life for me that I want to have, a life I wouldn’t be able to have with a family. But he doesn’t congratulate me, he doesn’t say “wow, I’m happy for you, that sounds great!”. Maybe because that would be a betrayal of his own life. And that might be what I feel a bit of every time I congratulate people with their wifes, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends and children, and get a sad look back when the opposite part thinks of my, as (s)he sees it, empty life. A small betrayal of the life I wish to lead.

Is it because we see the married life as a happy coincidence, where you have been so lucky that you met the “one and only” and thus the single life as the sad coincidence where you haven’t? Might single life not be a choise as well as the married life is? Most people, I know - not everyone, but most people can find a partner and marry if they want to, you might say “but not with the one and only, that is not a treat for everyone”, and I would say “yes it is, look around, most people are in or will be in a relationship with the one that they would name “the one and only”. I think that is a choise, as well as it is a choise that I’m single, -not the sad coincidence of me not meeting the one and only.

Therefore I think I should also be congratulated with my choises in life (at least if I look happy), as well as I congratulate married people with their choises, then I might not feel the same small betrayal.

Now, you might also say, “are you sure you don’t want a family”, and I might say “no, I’m not sure” (I believe in doubting in everything - I’ll discuss that another time). For now I’m sure, but I might one day have husband and children, who knows, maybe I’ll settle down. But my acquaintance might also one day be divorced, -who knows.

Atomkraft?

Atomkraft?

Is there beauty in old rusty iron? in holes? in the blue sky above it?

Is there beauty in old rusty iron? in holes? in the blue sky above it?

What is Beauty? Flowers - colours - harmony?

What is Beauty? Flowers - colours - harmony?

Examples on how to comment on others work. Showing disrespect.

Examples on how to comment on others work. Showing disrespect.

Your city, your style!

Your city, your style!

Banksy’s Exit Through the Gift Shop is definitely worth seeing! Surely it is all a prank, but he really get’s his point out there in the craziest fashion! Watch it and judge yourselves!

Banksy - from his website http://www.banksy.co.uk/

Banksy - from his website http://www.banksy.co.uk/